Neil strauss on online dating
But how does Strauss reconcile teaching men how to pick up women—through , featuring”10 more ways to disqualify” a woman (pdf, p.
81)—and running a lucrative business from what he’s learned as a pick-up artist with this new, grown-up self who values relationships and love? So after teaching millions of men how to “trick” women into liking them, you are now a convinced monogamist. I think there’s a cultural narrative, which is: guy who is a pick-up artist and now is a monogamist, and that’s a 180-degree turn.
I think if anyone feels trapped in a relationship, it’s because they felt trapped in their relationship with mom or dad, whatever gender they are attracted to, growing up.
So to me the real point of the book is that we have these beliefs and constructs in our heads that keep us from happiness—monogamy and non monogamy, men and women.
Now he has another problem later in life, which is commitment and relationships. You are a person, you’re growing and changing so a branding is almost like saying “this is who I am going to be” and defining yourself to a very narrow niche which forbids growth.
For sure in , I go through the dark side to come out.
It’s almost like a myth:you go through the forest, you go through the darkest part, and you fight the demons and at the end you get a treasure.
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One tends to get in relationships with needy people, they care for them, but then they become resentful and cheat—it’s a selfish dynamic.