For dating a black man
I wish I could say that I’m surprised and appalled by the ignorance that white men tend to show when they approach me, but I’ve come to expect it.While white men are not the only group to hold racial biases and stereotypes against black women, they tend to be the least informed on the racialized and gendered issues that black women endure.We’ve recently offered suggestions on how people of color can approach their white partner on the issue of race.And while of course the topic of race should be an ongoing conversation with your significant other, things would go a lot smoother if men — — were able to identify and prevent racial tension from the very beginning.So, in order to avoid some head and heartaches down the road for both parties, I’d like to offer white men some suggestions on how to best approach us.
The guy did, in fact, have some kind of black girl fetish.
Don’t ask us “Why do black people like or do _____?
” You can’t expect one person to know all things black culture.
My friend likes black girls, but he doesn’t like them too dark!
”Against my better judgment, I assumed that the wingman just wasn’t very good at his job and started talking to his friend anyway.
To be blunt: White guys, you often approach black women in a harmful way.