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When it comes to the most stressful life events, researchers rank divorce as number two, right after the death of a spouse or child and before being imprisoned or having a health crisis—and for good reason.
It goes without saying that ending a marriage can make you rethink everything you thought you knew about love—and sometimes, even, yourself.
"Lust is nature’s way of tricking us into attachment, so be very judicious about who you keep in your dating pool and who you 'throw back' to the pond," says Bela Gandhi, founder of Chicago-based matchmaking service Smart Dating Academy.
While it’s perfectly fine to sign up for a mainstream site like Match.com, using a niche site can help do some of the work for you by finding people who share the same values or passions as you do, Dr. If you’re looking for something a little less serious, the Tinder app can be a fun way to dip your toe back into dating.
Just make sure to set the age range correctly so you don’t end up getting invited to college ragers (unless that’s what you’re looking for! When it comes to taking your online interactions into the real world, there is no hard and fast rule about when to meet, but make sure safety is your number one priority, says Walfish.
When returning to dating after a longtime monogamous relationship (particularly one that ended badly), craving the excitement of a spark-filled romance is understandable.
But Gandhi says you shouldn't discount a "slow burn." "Especially when we are dating after divorce, singles think immediate, blazing chemistry is the key thing to look for," she continues. Chemistry, especially for women, can grow over time—and may take many dates to begin to grow!