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Avoiding the extremes of being either the Ice King/Queen or Mr/Miss Clingy is a delicate balancing act when it comes to dating someone for the first time, especially when playing it cool might leave you frozen out, says Sloan Sheridan-Williams Acting desperate in any situation is not a good look, but this is especially true when it comes to dating.
Clients often come to me having had a string of short-lived romances, starting one immediatley after another.
Women are more attracted to confident men who don’t smother them.
It is less about playing hard to get and more about both of you looking forward to next date without exhausting the honeymoon period.
All this boils down to is both sexes playing games to avoid both rejection and looking needy, which can result in the object your affection thinking you’re cold and disinterested.
By playing it cool, you are unconsciously shutting yourself off from genuine love and connection because you are not capturing the attention or interest of a potential partner, and thus stifling one of your basic emotional needs.
In the early dates, it is best to talk about your work and interests but hold back on the meatier information until you get to know one another better.
As their curiosity about you builds so will attraction.
The first rule of Raya: You do not talk about Raya.When you do share more your date will feel they have earned your trust.Should you end phone calls and dates early just to show you’re in charge?This is especially true when it comes to talking about past relationships as it can be a real turn-off for your date to picture you with other people.If you have to share details about your ex (perhaps in the case of children) then keep it light, positive and brief.
Others have been single for a while and worry that their thoughtful, considerate approach might be interpreted as disinterest.