Dating a parent of an autistic child
If your friends aren't supportive of your boyfriend, they aren't real friends.As long as you are happy and he treats you well you should not worry about your friends.Also, the couple eventually feels isolated because they feel it is hard to take an autistic child to people’s homes and are uncomfortable inviting people over.Sometimes the couple becomes closer than ever, bonded in their shared circumstances.Keeping any marriage healthy takes time, and all too often, time gets swallowed up by the autistic child’s needs.Many children with an ASD have difficulty sleeping, meaning that at least one of the parents is sleep deprived.Over time, dad becomes frustrated at the demands of their wives to interact or play with a child who does not know how, and moms become frustrated at the lack of involvements of their partners.As well, a common pattern among moms is to wonder what they did wrong – drinking or taking medications during pregnancy, exercising too much, allowing the child to be vaccinated, thus adding feelings of guilt to an already stressful situation.
Differences of opinion exasperate an already difficult situation – how much time, energy and money is to be spent on helping the child is based on personal philosophy, and in this the couple may clash. Tasha Rube is a Licensed Master Social Worker in Missouri.She received her MSW from the University of Missouri in 2014.Marital stress around the child usually starts when one or both of the parents realizes the child is not developing properly.Couples who have a child who does not seek their attention in the usual way (i.e., eye contact, reaching out for or giving of affection, searching them for comfort when hurt) find it hard not to feel rejected or unimportant to the child.
They also suffer stress similar to that of parents and siblings.