11 13 year olds dating
“If you pretended to be somebody else, your friends would go, ‘Whoa, why are you acting so weird?’” Also, there’s no need to pre-arrange that cellphone call to get you out of a date you’re not enjoying.But, she adds reassuringly, many of these youthful relationships, sustained largely by rumour and reputation, will have dissolved within days or weeks.Regardless, there are still many, many kids who haven’t the slightest interest in going out.“We call it group dating, and we believe it can be really healthy and protective,” says Jennifer Connolly, a psychology professor at York University in Toronto who specializes in teen relationships.
But by the same token, a tough, aggressive peer group can have a negative influence, such as tolerating dating violence.
” Catherine: “OK.” The two Toronto-area teens have been going out since last April, although rarely on their own.
In their group of eight friends, the four boys and four girls are paired off into couples, but prefer to spend their time all together, sitting around and talking at one another’s houses, grabbing something to eat, going to a movie. “We just feel better when we’re together,” Catherine explains.
A couple may never see or speak to each other outside of school, although they may well enjoy the new status accorded them by their peers.
These types of short-lived pairings — relationships in name only — jump in numbers by grades six and seven, when alcohol increasingly becomes part of many parties.
Group dating is also a way for kids to circumvent a parental ban on dating.