10 dating rules for guys
The Netherlands has less of a dating culture than other countries, for example the US or UK.There are less ‘rules’ about when to call back, kiss or spend the night, and actions are based more on instinct rather than an unwritten play book.Either way, be prepared that a date is not always going to be free ride, nor will free drinks in bars be that forthcoming from Dutch men.However, this does not mean that paying for your date is not appreciated – it’s your choice.Both Dutch women and Dutch men are renowned for being straight-forward in conversation, and little social negativity is attached to asking personal questions or openly stating one’s unsolicited opinion in the Netherlands.
Dutch men in general are not renowned for opening doors for Dutch women or taking their heavy bags.
Forget the sugar-coating – being down-to-earth and direct will earn a lot more points with a Dutch man or Dutch girls. Friends also usually kiss three times on the cheek in greeting; some strangers may kiss when being introduced to someone through a common friend, although a handshake is more common. It is not uncommon to split the bill on the first date – right down to the last cent’s worth of what you ate – regardless of whether your’re dating a Dutch man or woman.
While neither Dutch women nor Dutch men are renowned for being touchy on a first date, direct eye contact is the norm so don’t be put off if someone is staring your way. This shouldn’t come as a surprise considering you are in the country that gave name to the phrase ‘going Dutch’ (splitting a bill).
Some say it is unromantic but Dutch relationships pride themselves on equality between Dutch women and men.
Another option is for one person to pay for, say, drinks and the other for movie tickets.
The Dutch love efficiency and leading someone on can be a waste of everybody’s time.